Most of us were raised with the notion that girls should act “lady-like”. Be dainty, gentle, graceful, etc. Especially, in regards to dating. We are supposed to wait to be approached and asked out – maybe even play hard to get. I am here to tell you, to stop it. I think this misconception is why most of us are entangled in the “Dating Game”.
It is not easy to make the first move, and I will admit it – it takes guts to do it. That fear of rejection is always looming in the corner but I want to tell you that it’s OK to express your feelings and it’s OK to do it before the other person does. In fact, I think it’s pretty bad ass to step up and take the rein.
Obviously, don’t be creepy about it. But if you think that there is a mutual attraction there, why not take the plunge and really find out? Waiting is for pizza pops and we all know those aren’t good for you.
So stop stressing out about why he or she hasn’t made a move yet, and just make the move yourself. If you’re not convinced yet, I’ve listed a few reasons why:
1. “If he really wants you, he will do something about it”
That’s what I keep hearing people say, but what about what YOU want? If you expect people to operate on a certain notion, then you should hold yourself to the same regard. Give yourself permission to make the move, even if it’s the first. Especially if its the first!
2. It builds character.
As we all know, no matter how cute you are – no one’s life is perfect. There is a 50% chance it won’t work, but life is about the other 50%. The worst they can say is no – and if you think about it, it’s not so bad. It boils down to how you handle rejection. If you ever face it – I hope you remember that rejection does not and should not define who you are.
3. Don’t let your shoes pick you.
Of course, that will never happen – shoes are pretty but they have no brains. But YOU do and you also have standards – high standards. There is a 15% chance that the random individuals that will approach you (even though they have great taste *wink) will meet those standards. Let’s face it, the perfect shoes will not fall on your lap. You have to grab your AMEX and get them.
4. Boys enjoy being asked out too.
Being pursued is the ultimate flattery. We shouldn’t dump all the responsibility on the other person.
5. It really is your right as a woman.
We’ve come so far – we could have the first female in the Oval office in 2016, Angelina Jolie just directed an epic World War II movie, and we’re finally getting the media to stop photoshopping models (sort of). What are you waiting for? Ask that guy or gal out to dinner already!
6. What if they’re shy?
Because its 2015, boys are allowed to have feelings now (sarcasm). You’ll be doing shy people everywhere a huge solid by making the first move.
7. The truth will set you free.
If you have been crushing on someone you know for a while and found yourself one foot in the friendzone – this is the only way to get out. Whether the other person digs you too (cause you’re such a babe), or not (for other reasons) finding out will be extremely beneficial. If their answer is yes – then yay! Otherwise, you get to move on. You’re an important and busy person, don’t waste your time day dreaming.
I hope this helps. Good luck! XO