We may not be in NYC but the same sentiment seems to ring true here in Toronto, or perhaps it’s just a general cycle for millennials. And as if those three items aren’t enough, may I also add “getting over someone” to the list.
Love is messy and break ups are even messier. But what I’ve always found interesting is that your exes reflect who you were at that point of your life because what is a relationship but a magical looking glass into your own dark and twisted wonderland?
The great thing is that Exes live in the past and who you were before is not who you are now. But it’s still pretty entertaining to go back and re-read their chapters with a better understanding of the bigger picture.
Let’s flip back some pages, shall we?
The High School Sweetheart
You never really noticed boys until you saw him practicing for his varsity basketball game against the school’s rival team. You promptly asked your girl friends if he’s always been that dreamy or you’ve just been blind you’re whole damn life. He asked you out by passing a note around and before you know it, you’re wearing his hoodie during varsity games.
Let me guess: You went to school in America or any place where sports play a giant role on determining someone’s attractiveness. Also, you watched too much High School Musical. #TroyBolton
You probably broke up: Either because he cheated on you with a blonde who looks like Ashley Tisdale or you grew apart because that’s what teenagers do.
From time to time: You creep on his Social Media and often times ask yourself, “What the actual fuck?”.
The Older Guy
The older guy tends to follow a milestone in your life when you “decide” that you’re too mature for guys your age. He’s educated, opinionated, and takes interest in introducing you to new ideas.
Let me guess: You felt a bit superior just being with him because of all his “refined tastes”. Your friends definitely felt awkward hanging out with you and this Ex. You stopped doing shots from skis because ‘god how immature’!
You probably broke up: Because you eventually got bored of living like a 35 year old when you’re actually 23.
From time to time: You wonder what the fuck was wrong with him that women his age don’t want to date him.
Did you make out with him in an elevator the night you met? Probably. He’s completely irresistible. And girl you were warned against him by basically everyone and every Rom Com movie there is but you just can’t help yourself. He probably smokes or drinks or does something destructive but who cares – look at those eyes!
Let me guess: It was exhilarating. All of a sudden you got juicy stories to tell your girlfriends but deep down you know this is just temporary.
You probably broke up: Because dating a rebel is exhausting and know that in the long run, you need someone strong and steady.
From time to time: You smile when you think about him but ultimately know that this guy is not the one for you.
The Nerdy Adorable Guy
This guy is adorable and nerdy in all the cute ways. Your squad and their moms love him. He even told you he wanted a relationship! But something’s missing and you just can’t figure it out.
Let me guess: This guy is a tryer. He put in real effort but you didn’t value it at that time.
You probably broke up: Because no matter how much you pleaded with yourself, you just weren’t ready.
From time to time: You wonder if he found his girl yet.
The Foreign Guy
Gorgeous stranger – check! Beautiful accent – check! Feet swept off the floor – check!
Let me guess: His name was either Carlos, Felipe, or Javier?
You probably broke up: Because he had to go back to Spain?
From time to time: You listen to music in his native language because…memories.
The One (until he wasn’t)
Is there a worse heartbreak than finding the one, but later on noticing yourself change and then all of a sudden he isn’t anymore?
Let me guess: This is the one that forced you to a complete re-evaluation of who you are and what you want in life.
You probably broke up: Because people change.
From time to time: You start to miss him and wonder if there’s another one out there.
P.S. Exes happen. Learn from them. Remember that you are who you are now because of the lessons you learned in those relationships. Don’t stress. Keep looking forward. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen but in the mean time – be your own champion.