Why Am So Casual With Saying “I Love You”?

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Guys, I’ve done it! I’ve finally managed to come to a realization that I love a human being and actually squeezed the words out. Albeit in a very awkward manner, but I think you would agree that’s on brand. I mean this not in the way that I say I love my mum or the Pizza Hut delivery man, or pretty girls’ sun freckles – I mean it in the way that I worry if he’s had lunch or not – it’s weird and stalkerish. Anyway, this whole giddy fiasco made me wonder if we’re getting the L word confused. Why is it that the phrase “I love you” is so easy to say about most inanimate objects (I love truffle fries, I love All of Zara’s SS18 shoes, I say I love you to every dog I meet) but so difficult for most people to verbalize it to another person?

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I’m at constant risk of saying I love you to anyone who does any type of favor for me. Saying I love you has become a reflex and yes, there are worse things to say than you love something or someone but does that diminish the weight of the phrase? I have so many questions.

The response to my profession of love wasn’t given until over a week after. I guess he didn’t share my casual relationship with the phrase and obviously because I’m sort of petty, I used that time in between to over analyze and concoct passive aggressive comments – the usual. I couldn’t stop thinking about it! My thoughts were, I already know he loves me but WHY is he taking so long to say it?

When he finally did, I was stunned and thought “Are you sure?”

The older we get the more politics come with the phrase. Sadly, saying I love you often times come with obligation and awkwardness but maybe that’s what makes it thrilling?

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I honestly don’t think it should be that big of a deal to say it. I think it doesn’t have to come with an unintended pressure but instead a verbal reaction to an honest emotion. Listen at the end of the day, there are plenty of worse things you can do than tell people you love them.

Shiela is the original Small Girl and the Founder/Content Editor of Small Girl Medium City. She spent the majority of her "Grown Up" life in Toronto and reluctantly calls it the 6ix. Connect with her on Instagram - @shylo_l and Twitter - @sgmc_to; Definitely say hi when you see her on the mean streets!

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